Things I No Longer Do in My 40s

One of my friends, who is few years older than me, told me many years ago that whatever I did back then would reflect in my older age. She was talking about our late night parties, hangouts, and me, working long hours. “It will show one day” she said, “you will have weak bone and easily get sick”.

While she was referring to more physical things, I think (now that I can look back and see), it was way deeper. It would also affect our mental health, in some ways or the other. So if you are now in your mid 20s or even mid 30s watch out for whatever decision you make, or the people you surround yourself with. Because it WILL impact your life in the future.

I am 40-ish now. I am wiser, at least compared to my younger self. I have decided to live a more mindful life and make my happiness, and my wellbeing, as my top priority. I have to be FULL in order to be able to give back to the universe.

Having said that, these are my top 3 things that I no longer do today:

Feeling guilty when saying no.

I used to overthink a lot when I had to say no. I was afraid of other people’s judgment, hence I ended up saying yes without actually mean to. Now I have learnt saying no means saying yes to something else, more of times saying yes to my own happiness.

Compared myself to other people.

I hid behind “look up for an inspiration” while I was actually comparing myself non-stop and it made me feel miserable inside. I have come to learnt that people only show things they want us to see on social media.

Actively looking for a new friend.

You must have heard the saying that the older you get the smaller your circle of friends is, right? Well, it’s true. I feel like finding a new friend is like entering the dating world once again. You must get to know the other person first and finding out whether you have the same energy or not. It’s an effort and patience I no longer have. It’s not that I don’t want to make friends, it’s just I am not ACTIVELY looking. If we happen to have the same energy, we clicked, then a friendship will be blossoming naturally.

Now it’s your turn, what things you no longer do today that you used to do back then?

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5 responses to “Things I No Longer Do in My 40s”

Adarsh G

October 24, 2024 at 4:54 pm

Being a father, is like I have lost my childness

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1. shelorina
  
  October 24, 2024 at 9:09 pm
  
  The responsibilities weigh more indeed.
  
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  1. Adarsh G
    
    October 24, 2024 at 9:17 pm
    
    Yes exactly I’m feeling the same now
    
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fanny_dcatqueen

October 18, 2024 at 8:04 am

banyaaak sih sbenernya :D. tapi aku ga nyesel dulu pernah seperti itu, krn toh dari kesalahan2 lalu, aku banyak belajar.. yg pasti udah ga nyentuh lagi rokok, dulu sering ga enakan juga, terlalu mikirin apa kata orang..

kalo skr udah ga peduli ama komentar julid.. buatku, kasih kritik boleh, tapi hrs sopan.. jadi kalo menyampaikannya pake kata2 kasar, block langsung..

aku juga selective milih teman, even kalo dia ada hubungan saudara tapi ga cocok dengan gayaku berteman, mendingan block juga.. krn orang2 toxic begini malah bikin mood ku kacau nanti.

dan dalam hal keuangan, ga seboros dulu hahahahah.. aku jd lebih minimalis mba.. beli barang prefer yg berkualitas biar awet lama.. kalo dulu cendrung yg penting murah dan model lucu hahaha . krn toh dipikir2 kalo rumah numpuk barang2 ga kepake, bikin tambah stress.. berantakan . paling sukaa dengan konsep rumahnya orang jepang.. yg simple, minimalis dan ga banyak barang

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1. shelorina
  
  October 18, 2024 at 11:17 am
  
  Setujuuu..musti lebih selective milih teman soalnya circle toxic juga bisa menghalangi rejeki hehehe..aku belum bisa nih jadi minimalis tapi untuk belanja udah lebih mindful.
  
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